The Fabulous – Facebook – Fasade
Have you ever taken a photo of yourself and saw all the flaws and thought . . . I wish I could photoshop that? But it’s real life, right? The Fabulous Life of Facebook works the same way. We take our ordinary life, flaws and all, and write a fabulous post – minus the mundane – and thus, tweak our “picture of life.”
Who wants to hear that you can’t think of another way to make “Chicken” for dinner? Who wants to hear that you have 9 more loads of laundry and you haven’t washed your hair since Wednesday? or that you ran out of gas on the way to soccer, and you feel like a dummy.
My life is pretty average. I have 4 kids, and like most, I spend my days doing laundry, cooking dinner, making school lunches, running kids to and from soccer practice, art, music lessons, help with school projects, throw in a daily workout, write articles and try to scratch off the “To Do List” faster than items HOP on it.
In between all the laughter, the tears, the 2 year old hollering “EAT” EAT” EAT” & the 3 boys running in the house with new “tree house” ideas & school projects, something out of the ordinary will happen, that I need to post to Facebook; something fabulous, something worthy of celebration, that’s outside the realm of my laundry-piling, meal-cooking, diaper-changing day.
It reminds me of planning our Annual Family Photo; it takes a couple of weeks to figure out what everyone is wearing; we have to match colors on some level, organize outfits, have backups in case there are food spills and . . . you know the drill.
We typically do outdoor shots, and though the picture turns out fabulous, because our photographer, Crissy, is so talented, what I remember most are the gnats swarming around our heads, the dog spotting a duck across the pond and racing like a grey hound to catch it, the kids begging to play at the park and the baby crying because we had placed her in a red wagon, where she thought we were leaving her forever.
I remember after arranging all the clothes, loading everything in the car and arriving at our location, we had forgotten the babies’ pants. Oh Dear God. A turtle neck and a diaper, NICE! And yet, the picture you see, is the Great American family, well put together – Living the Dream. That’s right . . . Livin’ the Dream!
We get our kids all dressed to see Santa Claus. They’re in red and plaid; the older kids are posing because you want them to – and the baby is screaming like mad, while the Santa Helper is clanging a bell to get their attention. It’s all about the “Money Shot.” Getting the kids to smile at the camera, all the while your upper lip is sweating. It’s craziness. This isn’t real life. But we need to get the “Facebook” moment.
I have a friend that sends Christmas pictures of what REALLY happens when their family photo is taken. It’s hilarious. There’s always someone crying, one kid is goofing off and it’s AWESOME. To be honest, it makes for a better story. It makes me laugh so hard and the memory of that day is more precious.
So instead of “photo shopping” your life for the “Facebook” Moment, post the good, the bad and the mundane. Just as “Chicken Soup” is Good for the Soul, posting “Real Life” is Good for the Spirit. We’re all in This Together. Here’s to truly living your life, inside out!