World’s OKAYEST MOM, I’ve seen this sign everywhere; it makes me laugh. In college, my focus was less on education and more on socialization. If you know me and my personality, I whole heartedly scored an A in Fraternizing, Consorting and my dedication to commemorating an occasion. My grades were OK. There are moments when we shine in life and others when we’re just OK. The vital signs on the Monitor are still moving, nothing special, but we’re alive.
Us Moms spend our days beating ourselves up, thinking we’re not Enough. If we don’t have a cooking show or Professional Christmas Cards distributed by Dec. 5th, we’re not enough.
It’s such an immeasurable term. What does Enough look like? It should look like you, the Poster Child for Enough. Webster’s defines it as: Adequate. And yet somehow, we view it as IN-adequate.
Somewhere between social media and those craft sites, we think, wearing anything less than a Super Hero Cape MUST mean we’re letting the world down. Wow, what was once considered Over Achievement has become the lowly standard. We forget to forgive; providing ourselves a little slack in the “less than” amazing times. And believe me, there are many more “less than” moments. We need to love ourselves through the good and the bad.
When I was young, we weren’t rich, but no one told me. My parents started their own business; finances were tight, but we had love and determination. We spent boo-coos of family time, playing badmitton in the front yard, swimming at the lake, eating ice cream on the trampoline, laughing at each other’s stories, and enjoying Tuesday game night. My parents, at some point, probably felt like they weren’t enough, but we didn’t see it that way. Kids and spouses alike, have this amazing redemptive quality.
They’re just happy you love them!
We tend to be our own worst enemy.
Look at your kids as they skip through the house. Does this send a message that you’re not enough? Or maybe the teen who half rolls their eyes at a comment you made, yet stays in close proximity of the living room, as to not miss out on the action. Who do they run to for advice, boo boos and heart break, with perfect precision, making a bee line straight for you? It’s because, You’re ENOUGH!
You hold a solid position in those individual lives. No one can take this from you, but YOU. There’s no need for a Harvard resume to apply for this position. You’re here, because God gave you this crazy family that no one else could handle, like you could.
No one can fill the void, soften the blow, heal the heart, fill the wound or love their soul, like you can. Because, Say it: You’re ENOUGH!
A video on upworthy.com was produced, asking moms to describe themselves. They focused mostly on the negative: http://www.upworthy.com/these-kids-finally-say-what-they-really-think-about-mom-and-her-reaction-priceless-9
I struggle with my temper.
I feel over weight and un-lovable.
I’m a perfectionist.
I wish I was confident, patient, a better listener.
I’m a terrible cook.
I tend to focus on the negative.
I mess up and can’t seem to get ahead of it all.
My mom cooks for me.
She cuddles with me.
She loves me a lot and I feel it.
She gives the best hugs after school.
We go to church together.
She’s my heart.
My mom is my hero.
Hmmm, apparently they view us through Rose Colored Glasses. Maybe we should buy a pair. Perception is Reality folks and Mama, you’re Enough.
At times, we’re a Mess, a Masterpiece, A Success, and a Failure, but most of all, we’re Important and We’re Enough.
The Hand that Rocks the Cradle is the Hand that Rules the World. Here’s to the World’s Okayest Mom. Now go take a deep breath, because guess what – You’re Enough!