You Can Swing Over the Water Son, Just Don’t Get Wet!
Do you ever walk into a room and your husband has one of the kids by their feet, swinging them across the living room as they scream in sheer terror and excitement, while you envision pictures of stitches in the ER? It’s something I can’t watch.
I heard a statistic once that said: When a child sees their father, their heart rate excelerates. When they see mom, their heart rates decreases. Interesting.
The other day my husband knew that I needed a break, so I took off, ran a few errands, did a little shopping and had an enjoyable few hours to myself. Upon my return, I walked in the front door and noticed the kids were playing in the ATTIC! An unfinished attic with partial boarding on the floor and Hubby was no where to be found.
Hmmm. My husband said: ‘It was raining and they needed to explore.” Well, that certainly makes since. Why didn’t I think of that. NOT! Funny thing is, they rarely get hurt on his watch. It’s Amazing.
I came in one day, and on “Dad’s Watch”, found the baby asleep in the high chair in front of the TV watching VH1. J-O-H-N!!!!! His excuse, ” I was reading the boys a book and the baby was tired and hungry and VH1 seemed to do the trick.” Well alrighty then.
Now I see why their heart rates go up. It’s part fear and excitement of the unknown, of living on the edge. They don’t know what’s in store for them, but whatever it is, with dad it is going to be exhilarating.
But when they see mom, their heart rate goes down. Well, of course. They get to live another day. It’s because they know mom will give them food and a hug, not a roller coaster death drop. They associate mom with safety and nurture. We give them a sense of calm, keep them focused and on task.
Dad lets them fly down the stairwell on a mattress or in a box. Often times, I want to roll them in bubble wrap before heading off to the park, where I know they’ll try something crazy and get hurt. But then I have to remember, kids need to explore, take risks, learn and try new things.
Opposites attract. God knew this would be a perfect fit for our kids, to give them a sense of caution and adventure. So, hold your breath mom, say a few prayers and break out the bubble wrap, because dad will be home soon. Here’s to creative parenting.