People ask each other all the time: What do you do for a living? They see the car you drive, the house you live in, the clothes you wear, the schools your children attend, the teams they play, the size of your TV screen and the list goes on.
I had an SUV for years and loved it, until I had my 4th child; and while an SUV can hold all 6 of us, there was no room for the groceries, strollers and all the other stuff that looks like you’re moving, every time you leave the house. So when you take out the 3rd seat, all you can carry are your kids, a purse and bottle; and that’s just not gonna cut it.
So we had to buy a minivan. I cried the week before we bought it, because for some reason I had attached the fact that I would be driving a Mini Van to the fact that I was loosing any cool factor I had left in me. (sorry for offending others who love their mini van – But this is how I felt). First, went the little black dress and heels, then the purse turned into a diaper bag, slash luggage, my hair went from stylish to a pony tale and my car went from hip to less hip, and then I gained hip . . . . . but in the wrong place. : (
My mom said to basically “get over it,” she explained that these are just tools needed to get you from point A to point B for this phase in your life. Well I hadn’t thought of it that way. I thought I was loosing my identity, but if my identity was wrapped up in material things that can be here today and gone tomorrow, something needed to be adjusted.
Who you are is made up of many factors: good character, great reputation and family name, are you charitable, do you help those in need, are you a good friend, are you trustworthy and honorable?
You watch commercials that show a husband and wife in the Caribbean, rolling around in a bed that’s sitting in the middle of the beach, while gazing into each other’s eyes and you think, “I should be there, not at Jungle Joe’s bouncing on a trampoline”. Don’t let the marketers fool ya. Nobody likes sand that much!
The grass is not greener and everyone has, what seems like slow moments, lulls in life, but not forever. Life is Not passing you by. You are the real deal. You are Living Life. Everyday Vacations, All the Ice Cream You Can Eat, driving a Roadster and Trump Tower living is NOT REAL LIFE. Now if you get to enjoy those things, then great. It’s a bonus, but not everyday reality.
Suddenly my attitude changed: These are phases in life and they last for only a moment, so who cares about whether you have a mini van, a smaller house than you want or a piece of luggage full of bottles, bibs and burp rags. The little black dress will eventually return, the diaper bag will become a cute purse once again and things begin to fall back into place as life progresses. Change is constant, so be flexible.
Who cares that the leather furniture has scratch marks or the carpet is 10 years old. Just embrace the happiness around you, the joy of your kids telling funny jokes, your husband coming home from work, happy that you are happy; know that there is always a time and place for newer, faster stuff . . . . grander vacations and more free time, but while your in this phase of life, embrace it, wherever you are. Jump your cool-self into that minivan and embrace the Adventure!
P.S. Now that I have a mini van, I love it. Convenience is key! I still love wearing a pony tail, my diaper bags are more fashionable and I occasionally pull out the little black dress and enjoy a night on the town, just not in a bed on the beach. : )
The world and its desires pass away, but the man who does the will of God lives forever. 1 John 2:17