John and I decided to take the kids to the beach for a few days, last summer. On the way home, we noticed that between the 3 boys, they were wanting to go to the bathroom every 30 minutes. What had planned to be a 6 hour trip home was taking 8, so I got a bright idea. And oh – was it Bright!
On the last pit stop, we became the proud owners of a Yoo Hoo bottle, so I grabbed it up, told the boys, (ages 3 to 7 years old) “The next time you have to pee . . . pee in this bottle, we’re not stopping anymore.”
They looked at me like I was crazy, but sure enough, within 10 minutes, somebody had to pee, which triggered a “me too” effect throughout the car. So one by one, the kids (with seat belts on, 1/2 standing) pee-ed in the Yoo Hoo bottle. It made me a little nervous, cause, by the time it got to the 2nd kid, the bottle was 3 quarters full.
He then passed it to the third kid, who started to pee in the bottle, when his own little Yoo hoo came out and squirted the ENTIRE car – us, the baby, the beach towels. Poor fella, as everyone screamed and fought the spray, he reached out to hand me the bottle and accidentally dropped it . . . IN MY PURSE!
Oh Lord, words can’t describe . . . I could have hollered “Dear God, rolled my eyes, thrown my hands in the air, pitched a fit, ( Oh wait, I did!), but no matter what . . that bottle of pee was STILL sitting in my purse.
WHAT DID I DO To deserve this? I blamed the “little guy” for dropping the bottle. It’s funny NOW, of course it wasn’t then. We can try to decipher what we did to deserve such chaos in the car. hmmm Probably the fact that I had the dumbest idea ever, attributed to the pande-LIRIUMl! It would have been brilliant if it worked, but it didn’t, and so it goes.
Sometimes with all the running around, laundry, lunches, non-stop questions, homework and chaos in the car, we have to run our family like a “boot camp with love.” As moms, we try to take on the world and look fabulous at the same time, but we’re not always right, we’re not always correct in our assessments and sometimes, just as we train our own kids, we need to apologize.
If you mess up, just tell ’em you messed up. “I’m sorry.” WHAT? They may look at you like you have two heads for a split second, but it will make a huge impact on your kids if they see parents apologize for mistakes made. If we allow our children to see that we’re human, fallible creatures that make a mess of things sometimes, it will allow them to take risks and know that sometimes we’re gonna fail, sometimes we’ll succeed, but it’s always important to try. And when we make mistakes, own it and move on.
So . . . The next time you have to apologize for something, just think of my “Brilliant Yoo Hoo Idea” and it should make you feel really good about yourself. Happy travels!
Confess your sins to one other and pray for each other so that you may live together whole and healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.
Forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.