Don’t Judge Lest You Be:
Have you ever been walking through the mall or enjoying a quiet dinner at a restaurant and a toddler refuses to sit down, he bucks in the stroller and is screaming “I hate you” no no no” uncontrollably. And the first thing that pops into your mind is: “I’m glad my little Johnnie is sweet and kind and doesn’t act that way. I wouldn’t allow that. My kids know better. Tisk tisk.
Well, don’t hold your breath, because it will happen to you. You think you raised this cute little princesses and when it really counts, you’ll look over and tired, cranky little Sarah turned into Chucky V and nothing will console her. And then you remember the moment you felt high and mighty about your own. Keep in mind, kids are kids and with the best discipline and character development, they’re still learning, growing and testing boundaries; they get tired when we carry them out during nap time. It’s going to happen. Just don’t judge, instead sympathize, say a little prayer for that mom and count your blessings.
With my first son Jack, I invested so much time and energy into him, reading books at 4 months old, spending every waking moment with him, teaching him all the little things in life he would need to know. We watched endless educational videos for babies, with all the colors and sounds. He was the perfect little child. We were shopping at the Gap one day and passed this mom, whose kid’s head was spinning, he was screaming, bucking, floundering in her arms, throwing toys and hollering “NO! NO!
I looked at Jack, who was about 15 months old and whispered: Hey buddy, mommy has taught you better than that, right? You’ll never act like that, you’re a good boy.
1 month later – Cracker Barrel: 16 months old: I met my mom and grandmother for lunch; we sat there ordering our food, chatting about how good Jack is, all the character building we’ve invested in him and then, as if another child jumped into his body, he began screaming, trying to jump out of his booster seat, threw mash potatoes on my back, and tried to pull the Cracker Barrel Lantern off the table. Thank goodness the light was screwed into the wood. I couldn’t believe he could act this way. Well, welcome to the terrible twos, on steroids.
At that very moment, I remembered the woman at the Gap. It all comes back around. Let’s be kind to each other, mom to mom. We have the hardest job in the world. We need to stick together and have compassion for one another. Because you never know when it may happen to you,